Is it possible to do both? Can a mother work or volunteer outside the home or will she do irreparable harm to her children? Is it possible to balance both? Anyone who knows me knows that I am a firm believer in babies needing to be with their mommas. That said, I also believe that babies need their daddies as well. These children have both. It is possible for children to have their primary parent be their father and still feel loved, secure, and know they come from a home where they are cared for. While they do miss me while I'm gone, they get plenty of snuggles, cuddles, lovey-doveys, and mommy time.
My question is would people be as judgemental if roles were reversed to "normal" and it were Husband working (if he were capable) while I stayed home? Would people be making the comments to Husband if he were working full time without pay while I was home? I doubt it.
My children are not in daycare. They are being cared for by a parent. By their father. And, when I am home, both of us. Not strangers.